And now i've gone and done exactly what i didn't want to do. I didn't want to get put in the middle of this. 

You don't really care.
You ask her how she feels and what you can do to fix it for the sole purpose of knowing it's the right thing to say. 
You don't change.
You just know exactly what to say. 
Grow up. 

I can tell when you've been talking to her. Your mood nosedives.